Tony Robbins is a Cult!

This is the typical response you get when you tell someone you are going to Tony Robbins. 

But until you experience that energy, that magnetic force that makes you feel closer to a complete stranger than anyone you have in your life, you will not know what your true destiny means! 

For the last few years I have been at this crossroads, can this be it? What else is there?

Am I Stuck?

My work was no longer exciting, I had been doing the same customer service job for 8.5 years and I was tired. We are in the fees business, so getting yelled at on the daily from customers and sales was a normal thing. I am a single mom raising a teen, and that comes with a whole list of unique challenges to overcome.  Then you figure relationships into the mix and well we didn’t always get along, I have stories okay! I had daddy issues and I don’t want her to have daddy issues.

So my boss suggested that I try Tony Robbins Date with Destiny. I was terrified, to say the least, about going to Florida.

Then you arrive, and to have so many strangers welcoming you, smiling at you, accepting you,  not afraid to be their true self with you, was the most invigorating experience!

“Why you thought you came here, isn’t the reason you came here”

Tony Robbins

From going to a previous event, I had an idea of what to expect, but this event….this event, was that experience, on STEROIDS! If you have never been to a Tony event, I encourage you to click here for a list on how to Thrive at Tony Robbins if you are planning to go. Thankfully I had most of the list, but there were a few extras I wish I would have had with me, so you are welcome!

One thing that Tony says in the beginning is, “why you thought you came here, isn’t the reason you came here.” At first I was like, (scoff) ok, I have some serious issues to fix, trust me. Then over the course of a few days, you come to realize that the “traumas,” as you call them, you thought were causing then problems in your life, were gifts. They are actually the reason you are who are today and they make you stronger.  

I used to believe everyone was out to get me, I was not deserving of love and a number of other ridiculous things that I had to look at my notes to remember, like I am a disappointment, I bring my family shame, the guilt I feel for making mistakes and not being perfect. 

I started to create these set of rules for myself that were acting as a catalyst for each other, only to bring me more pain in the end. Yet, I continued to do these actions because they were meeting some other sort of primal need. And until you realize what that primal need in you is, you will continue to have this wheel of pain that you go round and round in. 

I was abandoned!

I was 3 or 4, and my babysitter left me at the school playground. All I can remember is that I was on the swing, she says she has to leave, I panic, jump off the swing and start running towards the chain link fence around the playground. The entrance was right there, I could see the grass patches in between each sidewalk. I was running, I turned the corner and the next thing I can remember was being carried into the kitchen… 

Blood! Lots of blood! Down my leg, on my foot, I could feel it dripping between my toes. Stitches were required. Apparently there was a broken bottle in the grass. 

One of my old needs was security. I needed to feel secure in everything I did, for fear of being abandoned, letting others down, shame. I put this wall up, I did not let people get close to me, I would rather depend on myself than have any of those feelings in any relationship that I had; working, personal, lover, you name it.

Was this all because of my babysitter leaving me at the park?

It might be more complex than that, but without allowing yourself to see your past from a different perspective, you might continue to be in a constant ring of pain. 

Life is not about oh woe is me, you are not meant to pay bills and die. You were meant to live, you need to let your guard down and love in. If you are too busy trying to keep the pain out, you will not see the love trying to get in. 

The Power of Language

There are thousands of words to express human emotion and everyone seems to focus on the negative, then our brains continue to focus on that negative. When you talk negatively, you attach emotional feelings to those words. Then every time you speak those words, you feel that negative emotion. Because we are cultivators by nature, we remember every last negative memory in our mind, then create a library, we label it, categorize it, and file it away so when we get in a battle of sorts we can draw on the library of negativity we have created in ourselves. We start to live our lives based on the perception that everything is happening to me, and why did this happen? It is a constant go round-like the merry go round only it’s not so merry.

And what do you think would happen if you did the same thing with your happy memories? Remembered at least 3 things you are happy for every day and created that library, label it, categorized it and filed it away so you can draw on that energy any time we want? 

Imagine the happiness you would feel if you consistently remembered the good in your life instead of the bad? You quit expecting people to behave based on the way you perceive your world. Perception is reality, and most of the conflict comes when two people want the other to act based on their own perception. Instead of realizing that sometimes it just rains on your parade for no particular reason.

Tony Robbins Priming Video

Screaming and all is a great exercise to do to achieve your next level of happiness! I will never forget the laughter my daughter and I had after she told me she was scared for her life at 5 am because she thought someone was screaming outside her door and I told her nope that was just me Priming! 

I encourage you to try the video, do it for 30 days (they say it takes 30 days to make a habit) see how your life starts to turn around and if you can start to stir that energy around you in a positive way.

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